Something to think about.

From "Dance of Fear" (or "Fear and Other Uninvited Guests") by Harriet Lerner:

"In reality, every human being is dependent on the help and support of others. There's nothing shameful about recognizing how much we need each other -- a fact we can deny when we're healthy and things are going along well. What's shameful is the myth that with the right "can-do" attitude, we can bootstrap our way to health, wealth, and happiness. Or that staying strong, vigorous, and youthful is what matters most, rather than cultivating acceptance for what is. Or that fear and suffering is weak, and that our job is to "take control of our lives" and "run the show." Surrender is not the American Way. We are expected to turn even the most terrifying experiences and unfathomable losses into an opportunity for personal growth. Writer Michael Ventura calls this our "consumer attitude" toward experience and notes that other cultures would find it unnatural.